We're glad you're here, although sorry abuse has found you. We do have solutions.

Do you suspect that you or someone you love is suffering from verbal and emotional abuse at the hands of their partner? Relationships are meant to be nurturing and supportive in order to create an environment suitable for personal, mutual and family growth. When verbal and emotional abuse rob one partner of the respect they deserve, for whatever reason, the wounding has to stop. 

Abuse hurts. Whether it is cutting words, disrespectful gestures, unreasonable demands and accusations--it hurts. And in order to restore sanity, balance, and love to a relationship, abuse has to stop. However, abuse doesn't stop because you are pitiful, because you are the victim, because someone rescues you, or because the law is on your side. It stops if and when you learn to demand respect from your partner. Yes YOU. 

You are a Target, NOT a Victim

Dr. Mike and Shelly Marshall, a brother and sister team, have put together a program designed to help you see that you are not a victim, you are a target. A victim is powerless and has to have someone rescue them. A target has power because they can assess the situation and take action to get out of the way.  

Support Learn to tap into community support--either virtual or face to face--and use the resources that give you back the respect and self-esteem you deserve. Although no one can rescue you, they can help you practice behaviors that work in your own best interests and do not promote abuse.

Growth           Your power and your  worth come from one place--within. If you don't know your own worth and don't demand to be treated  with respect,  you invite others to misuse and abuse any relationship you have with them. Once you understand the Miracle Principle, life takes on a whole new meaning.

Workshop The Respect-Me RULES introduce you to the Miracle Principle, shows you how to stop a partner from from calling you names, making accusations, controlling and manipulating your every move and making you feel worthless.  START with our workshop and earn a certificate of completion. Click here to go to our other site and begin the workshop.

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Comments from visitors to the site

Dana August 2011
     It's been two years since I woke up to his abuse. I still cannot function. I have panic attacks about leaving my house out of fear of running into him or his friends. I stay armed with something at all times. I was victimized for almost two years and didn't realize it. I just wanted him to love me.
     Little did I know that all he loved was the sex. He has ruined my reputation and my integrity. He has posted what I thought were intimate photos and videos for us only on the internet and shared them with his friends and mine including relatives. I have filed a restraining order and complained to his off-site supervisor. I know he is doing this to other women as well and they are feeling just like me.
     The worst thing is that I cannot go outside my house. He rides by my house at all hours. I am not physically afraid of HIM...rather I am afraid of what I will do TO him if he comes near me. This is driving me crazy and my daughter needs ME..not this person I have become. ~from Dana in MS
Dan
     Hi, I was reading this article and realized I was doing this to my wife.  I do not know how to communicate well mainly due to my child hood exposure to abuse and my dad didn't set a very good example.  I was exposed to this early on in my marriage and didn't know how to handle it.  I retaliated with likewise behavior. That didn't solve anything. I have been trying to analyze and understand what went wrong. Now I know and will use the principles to better my marriage. Thank you so much.  Dan

"M"
     Dear Shelly,   WOW. The tutorial was very informative. I am glad that I read it... for reasons too numerous to list.
     Glad that you included the links, but most of all actions. I have the site bookmarked and will share it with others.
     Wishing you a peaceful and fulfilling day, M

Jan
    This was truly amazing! I hadn't realized how I had let every kind of abuse creep into my 20 year marriage.  I see now that it's me allowing these things to continue and that the more I show him my love for him, the more I'm giving my blessing to this increasingly cruel nonsense!  No more.  Thankyou so much for helping me see beyond the "episodes" that, thru my denial and fear have become an expected part of my daily life.  I have a long way to go... but I feel FREE already!

CC
Already you have helped me by saying, "You are a target, not a victim". All the professional help I've received so far either a/ just says that I'm an accomplice in the role playing or b/ that I'm in a terrible situation, a victim, what can be done?
     So I like your way of perceiving it. And believe me, I really need any help I can get (verbal abuse for over quarter of a century).  Best wishes, CC